Posted by osum on:
Wouldn't you much more rather that somebody tell you they won't do something (because they can't or don't want to) than them telling you they will, so you rely on them and then they don't come through
Just be upfront about things that's all.
I find that in communication, both personal and professional there is too much tip toeing around feelings, egos, motives. Which in turn forces us to say even less and be less open which leads to much more disapointment than anything. We get so caught up in our own biases and lose objectivity and the ability to find a balance, cut the bs and move forward.
Here's an example. In the 08 election, all the very strong Obama supporters were overly enthusiastic, which made me a little nauseous. (to be honest) For months I heard this candidate speak in generalities and promise non-substantive stuff (hope...etc). I'm not a cynic (much), but I really like details, and dates, timelines, whatever substance. In a very eloquent manner Obama hypnotized the nation, and what upset me was the expectations that he raised.
At the time I blogged on Daily Kos (the progressive blog) a rough criticism of what I saw happening and also included this image (that I created).
When I created it, (and now) it means, if you are voting expecting everything to be fixed, you will be disappointed, it's unrealistic to expect everything he promises.
I also created this image depicting the Obama: All puppy dogs and rainbows mentality But on Daily Kos I got 116 messages of disbelief, most likely I was a troll (not someone who genuinley blogs, but one that is just there to destroy). At some point someone pointed out that in previous posts, I had legitimate criticisms of policy from a progressive perspective and maybe I wasn't a troll.
The point is, people both online and offline didn't give legitimacy to my criticism and today when Obama doesn't stand up and is upfront about taking a hard and ultimate stand against the health care $$$ and doesn't demand (if you will) a public option, doesn't exit Afghanistan, doesn't relinquish the Patriot Act, people are all of a sudden disillusioned. Not me. I am very proud of the things he HAS accomplished and is sure better than the "one" we had in office before. Sure, Obama is now stuck with a country that has been falling apart for so many reasons, and he will work hard, but he needs the cooperation of others. It's my thought if we get rid of the blinders and are upfront about how we perceive him and the criticism and expectations of him (and all other electeds) we will be living and working on a reality we can all handle, not this impassioned, useless visions that are unrealistic.
I think president Obama is a good one, a real one, one that has ideals I relate to, but I don't overestimate him. It would be foolish to do so and not attain to reality. Now, there are Republicans that HATE anything and everything the president does. Likewise, Democrats that LOVE everything he does. That's not the way it works, nothing works this way, and I'm one to call things out like that (maybe less than I'd like to) because without the straight forwardness we can't move forward.
This Obama example is just one, where everyone takes sides and we can't call things as they are and not be called, unpatriotic, compromising, traitor or whatever. That's the reason for this blog being named upfront. (I am guilty) of like everyone else tip-toeing around feelings, egos and motives, but I do feel that is the cause of our stalemates.
I was reminded to post this blog & example today, because like the days of campaign 08, Obama received the Nobel Peace Prize today. This move, based on the hope and promise he offers reminds me of not too distant rhetoric and warm fuzzy feelings I heard about non-stop, but dared to question until something could be substantive. I find it either hopeful or patronizing, and I'm not sure which I dislike more.
Cause as we all know the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
If I write a blog on here, it will be upfront, and if it's not, I welcome the challenge to be more so. That does not mean disrespectful, it just means, not useless.